My exhusband and father of my 2 oldest children was murdered

[mrsredsun]

Well I guess this is a bad time for alot of people. Lately it seems one thing after another.

Today, August 13th, (my Birthday by the way), I had a total of 5 police come to my door. `

I knew it concerned my ex-husband.

I thought he was in trouble, again. He had been staying here with me and Rudy and the kids for about 2 months. We saw him go downhill, using drugs again, crank was his drug of choice. We all care very deeply for him. He was treated as my brother and a good friend. He is the father of my 12 and 10 year old kids. He was the UNCLE to the babies, they loved him dearly.

I thought he was in trouble, I immediatley told them he had been staying here but has been in and out for awhile now. Pijk up clothes and leave.

The they said Mamm we found a body earlier today. It is under investigation, we dont even know how he died yet. They are treating as foul play.

He had been clean nearly 2 years when he relapsed. He was a State Certified druyg and alcohol counsler. He just really wanted to help people.

Then after apeaking to them hysterically dfor about a half hour. I had to come inside and figure out how I was going to tell my children.

We have no way to bury him. We are broke beyond broke, and his family is too. His parents have already passed away.

Please, from those of you who pray, please we need all the prayers in the world right now.

If anyone can donate, I dont know if this appropiate to ask but we need any donations you can send. Hoss please let me know how or if we can ask. I wouldnt even know how to do this.

Im lost, my kids are lost, and Rudy is the only glue, but he is taking it very hard. Like I said he was very close to all of us. My ex and I were together for 7 years, slpitting up in 1997.

btw. We are praying for Chaosus. We havent been posting because of all the other drama in our lives. But we still linger every once in awhile.

[SatansProdigy]

Sorry to hear. My thoughts are with you and yours!

[The Charlton Guy]

I don't know what to say...it seems like this has been a very hard last few months for many Corral Members.

I just recently lost my brother-in-law, so I am with you, it is very hard to come to terms with, especially with children involved.

I wish all of you the very best and hope that you can rise above the grief as quickly as possible.

Best regards, as always,

CG

[camper49]

WOW!
I'm almost speechless.
All I can say is hold your chin up and keep your stick on the ice.
Bear through this, life will get better.

CG is right, though. It's been a tough summer for CORRAL members.
Not to take anything away from your predicament Mrsredsun, but here's where I'm at today.
My ex-wife went off the deep end in May. Our relationship has been that of almost friends up until then. Even though our Court Order provides me with open access to my girls, I haven't seen my three daughters (ages 13, 11, 10) since June. She's been denying me access which is against the law. However, Police cannot do anything as our Order is not specified or Police-enforceable. My earliest court date to prevent her from doing this is in the New Year.
To add insult to injury, she's blatantly lied that I owe her $8,600 in arrears for child support. So I have to pay this to her UNTIL I go to court and prove she is full of crap (which I can easily do). But the court date is in the new year so until then I have to pay her this fictitious arrears.
Finally, she's called the Police a few weeks ago to complain that I am harrassing her and threatening her life (another blatant lie). Yeah she lives 75 miles away and I drive out there every day just to harrass her...NOT! Funny though, that the Police can do something about this with no proof. According to my lawyer, he says my biggest problem is I have a penis. All she has to do is call the Police again for any reason, a lie or not, and I'll probably be spending a night in the slammer.
I think I'll try to call the kids again today and pray that she doesn't answer the phone.

[fulltimer56]

mr and mrsredsun,

My heart goes out to ya'll! It's got to be tough to tell the kids about their Dad! Wish ya'll well!!

camper,

Hopeful your trouble will be over in the New Year. Wish you luck too and just hang in there!!!

Linda

[disneyteddies]

Man...rough ain't the word for it...we're really sorry to hear that everyone is going through bad times (especially the loss of life ones). I'm glad we're back here to offer our condolences at least for Mrsredsun, Cg, Linda, Brian and Gary and whomever else that might need them. Try to think of the things in life that are good (if possible). Take care everyone.

Hank and Stace. :shock:

[theredsun]

Thank you guys for you post and support/Prayers, we TRUELY do APPRECIATE it very much. I have an update since i dont concider it good news cause it wont bring him back. they have arrested 3 people in connection to his Murder and all have confessed, which dont mean shit till they go to court. all were homeless people from the area where he was killed. it was a single knife wound to the chest/heart and corner said he went fast and didnt take long for him to bleed out. they are 2 females and a male, 1 female was just there and the other hid the evidence and the guy stabbed him. they say they guy tried to take his alcohol and he refused and they had a fight and he was stabbed. we`ve had a real issue with the homeless in the are and have no shelter here for them and city has no money or wants to bother to build one. its hard not to lean the other way now and not support the shelter after this but Im having a hard time dealing with it since it was over something so trivial and stupid for him to kill him for. I was at the point where I just wanted to take a torch to the river where they stay so they would leave or go away but we went today to see where they had found him with his sisters and some of the homeless had ericted a cross with a horsh shoe where they found him and just made me cry and made me think twice at who I was really mad at, and its not them its the ASSHOLE who killed him andf the peole envolved in the crim. we contacted violent crimes victims assistance and it looks like they will provide 7500.00 twards his funeral arrangments which we couldnt come up with on such short notice. peole see us as weird that he came over so much and stayed the night and even stayed on nights when I was gone all night, was normal for us. he was and IS a part of this Family and Im proud to have had my kids be around and know him. He will be missed, ALWAYS. We LOVE YOU and MISS you Joseph "Rod" Fox. YOUR FRIEND, Rudy Garcia

Again I thank you all and so does Kelly,Im sure she will be on some time after the funeral(monday) and post her Thanks as well.

[camper49]

Well, you certainly don't deserve the pain you're enduring.
You should be proud of yourself and the rest of your family for the way you've all been pulling together.
It sounds like Joseph's in a better place now.
If I may say, please allow yourself the time to properly grieve for him.
I'm not sure if Joseph was ever a "Friend of Bill W." but the other side of the coin is Al-Anon and ACOA...just some suggestions.
Hang in there!

[marvelguy]

I hope everything's well with you and Mrsredsun and the kids, too. You got big respect there about your lady's ex. Just be careful out there.