Hello everybody long time no see

[yarmak]

I hadn't dropped off the face of the planet but the last few months have been a personal discovery for me.
As alot of you know things have been very bad between my mother and stepfather.
this june just gone for the first time in 19 years I met my dad.
After asll that has happened to me and the things that were said from my mum which i knew where not true it made me start thinking about some of the things that she told me about him.
He lives in another state completely to me and maria and I flew up there to meet him and his other half.
I was not sure how it would go but it went very very well.My dad is a very laid back person with a very dry sense of humor
The time before when i saw him end of 87 he had eyesight but was going blind.He now has 5% vision in one eye and none in the other.
So he could not really see me too well
He has done alot in his lifetime sailed the world 2.5 times the last time in 2002.He had to stop,the sailing and sun totally mucked up his eyes

We are now in contact and ring each other once a week

Things between my mum have got worse there has been many times I have put out the olive branch but it has never worked as everything has to be on her terms.The last time i saw them she asked if i was here becasuse my concionse was bothering me or was i worried about my inheritance.I have not been back

Maria and I are podding along tho and atm are doing some renovating to the garden. The whole front yard was ripped up and will have paving and lawn put down - the pergola we put up some time ago

hope everyone is well

Dave

[Hoss]

Hi Yarmak! It's nice to see you stop in!

I hope you're doing good! Great news about you and your pop. It's nice when people can put the past behind them. I hope things with your mom pick up.

There's nothing like some good yard work to get your blood flowing, I hope that the garden and yard comes out the way you want it!

Keep stopping in, it's nice to hear from you!

Hoss

[camper49]

WOW!
What a tale of tragedy.
It's very close to my own story except I would be in your father's shoes right now.
My girls' mother has been alienating my girls from me for about 4 months now.
Hopefully we can get a court date set ASAP to start reversing the damage she did. It's looking good for me but the wait is hard.

So it's great to hear about you and your dad.
We need to hear more good news like this.

[yarmak]

Thankyou Hoss and Camper they are kind words and are appreciated very much.

Camper I feel for you in your situation.I read your post about what is happening in your life. I am figuring your children are little?
When your children have grown up they will want to know what really happened between their mum and dad and it will be bittersweet - at least it is in my experience.
Pls do not let your ex wife in anyway try to influence their thinking mate.So much of what i have found out that my mum told me was not true in the slightest.
The reason i belive my dad is that there have been too many years that have passed all the hurt and heartache was delt with a long long time ago for him.
What he told me was just factual.How things happened from his perspective.

Also soooo much he told me what happened to him similar things have happened to me over the last 17 months or so since feb 10 8pm 2005.Old dogs do not learn new tricks.Because I was little I never saw any of the these things but because i have grown up I now can see things from an adults perspective.Your children will too.

I am not sure i am explaining myself real well here tho all I hope your court date will fix things up and from what you say it looks good.

I wish you the best Camper and my fingers will be crossed for you plus it is my experience ppl who read whether it is comics or books are great ppl.This has been proven to me more times than I can remember.

I hope the outcome will be highly favourable to you with as little negitivity as possible that your children will have to endure from all this

all the best

Dave

[disneyteddies]

Hey Dave..G'day Mate! It's great to hear from you again. Glad things r better with your dad, sad about your mother though....like Hoss says, take your mind off things with other stuff like the yardwork. How's the living room ceiling holding up?? And what the heck happened with Toby Rand???? He was supposed to b the lead singer of the band SuperNova but they chose Lucas the growler instead.......oh....well, their loss. Hate to see when the Aussies lose out! Well, take care and give Maria a hug for Stace and I!

:twisted: :P

[yarmak]

Hank and Stacey :-D :-D :-D
our cieling is great mate! and haz not fallen down :)
Maria has a cousin who is in the ceiling buisness and looked over our whole house and all is shipshape :)
have been getting out in the garden but got sick of it and got a bobcat in to bulldoze all of it.It is totally bare now cept for 2 trees which we realise now was a mistake to leave in - grrr so they have to come out the hard way.One of them is a big bugger too.
we are getting paving done and was in the garden last weekend and this weekend.
we have a rock wall around our house and the idiot ppl before us decided to bury the rocks in the ground %$#@ so they are up now and this weekend just gone put in 4 soakwells we got some quotes to put in and the going rate it seems is AUS$100 - $120 not incuding materials.
So put them in myself.
I am dog tired now.
But the best part is the pavers are going in tomorrow and will be finished on tues - 2 days 90 sqm of pavings.
We also had a limestone retasining wall put up - marias brother in law did this for us - it looks great.The old wall was crap and not sealed on the dirt side so moisture got through and mold.Not this new wall tho i coated it and should be fine now.
On a sad note Marias Dad who is 82 in Dec 2 weeks ago had a mild stoke.Lucky we were there for tea when it happened.rang an ambulance and they got there in 10 min he is fine now and is like it never happened.just lucky we were there.But the idiot hospital sent him home about 12.30 am without tests - %$#@ the hospitals here......
He had his tests over the following week and came through with flying colours.
Poor bugger :( i have the highest amount of respect for him he is a great person and still works hard to this day in his garden would put many ppl half is age and younger to shame i reckon.
so this is why we have not been arond much again
A cousin of Marias got married yesterday your time he lives in Montreal
Maria had a big grin when I said you sent her a big hug and sends one back to both of you as do I :)
Dave